Getting back into dating after long relationship
Some people however simply miss the companionship and may feel out on a limb.Whilst singledom can be embraced in many positive ways sooner or later a man or woman will want to spend one-to-one intimate time with another person.what can i do while im waiting for this moment and how can i go on living without him?We spoke to counselling psychologist, Banetsi Mphunga, on how to navigate the decisions you make about dating after you've just come out of a long-term relationship After having been in a long-term relationship, getting back into the dating world can prove to be tricky, if not, a difficult task.Online Dating, Speed Dating and Singles Dinner Party events, Lock & Key parties, Lonely Hearts columns or Blind Dating can all be lots of fun but may also be a little overwhelming.You will understandably be apprehensive and nervous about entering the dating arena again, but one empowering thought to remember is that the person you are on a date with is most probably just as anxious as you. There is no need to curse your ex or list all your previous relationship issues.You’ve become so used to one person’s habits, temper and way of life among other things, going back out there to start right from the beginning is not an easy dynamic to navigate.
Its easy to let excitement get the better of you but keeping a check on the following will help you ease back into dating. Being true to yourself will show them you have a strong personality and know what you want from life. A date is a meeting of two people, regardless of the location.
MISTAKES TO AVOID Mphunga again reiterates that the biggest mistake one should avoid when entering a new relationship is the high expectations, which include looking for traits in your new partner that you’re old partner had.
“One might’ve come out a relationship where one’s partner was either quite controlling or submissive, the mistake made here is that one might expect that his/her new partner will conform to these roles and this might not be the case,” he says.
Just because you are single it doesn’t mean you have to be out there looking for Mr or Ms Right straight away.
You may decide you would rather spend your leisure time in the company of good friends, who might eventually get round to introducing you to their lovely single friends.